This topic reminds me of the seemingly innocuous question "when involved in a conversation, do you listen or wait to talk?" asked in the movie Pulp Fiction. It seems a lot of boomeraskers would do the latter.
You always ask for comments, & most commenters do respond w/ personal remarks, sharing a bit about themselves... rather than just a quote by some famous person... I believe, well, I know, you put a lot of effort into researching the main topic for each day, so when you ask for comments, you most likely appreciate your readers' true responses to your researched material.
What came to my mind when reading about asking questions to show true interest... I believe I've mentioned before, my husband & I began answering questions, from a book, some found on the internet, some silly questions, some very personal, thought-provoking questions, while we were dating. We agreed to marry after finishing one book. We've continued to answer questions from another book he gave me last Christmas, right before we start playing pool each afternoon. One day, the guy who was doing pest-control for our house showed up at that time. We included him in the question of the day. He gave a very thoughtful answer. Then told him the story, what I just wrote... he absolutely loved it!! However, said he didn't think the woman he was living w/, the mother of his child, would enjoy it. We had a copy of the original book we used & gave it to him, w/ hopes it would help their relationship.
The Charlie Kirk murder - my prediction is there will be a great divide (probably already is). Those who detest him because of some of his beliefs, vs the opposite of course, his followers, who will grieve. I actually didn't know who he was until yesterday. Senseless murder is what I say. Then I think of Luigi Mangione who was charged with the murder of UnitedHealthcare CEO Brian Thompson in November 2024. He was then idolized by followers, now has a fan club, receives donations while in jail...
get your definitions clear before you make accusations. Honesty has nothing to do with passive-aggressiveness. Uh, Mr. Quote Guy, Mr. AI reference user...
What is staggering is how there are enough on the left who think Charlie Kirk was extreme and used hate speech. That couldn't be further from the truth with the way he conducted his approach of "Prove me wrong" et al. It is the Tucker Carlsons of the world who are more apt to be accused of the original point. It is the fact that Charlie was the most effective, not divisive, in his dialogue, which included how well he was resonating with young adults. That scared the hell out of the progressives. BTW, I smirk at the comment about passive-agressive in this thread. Good golly, Miss Molly...
I have numerous times over several years said you are a narcissist - you are once again proving it by projecting, a form of gaslighting, claiming you have struck a nerve too close to home. However, look how suddenly you reacted to my initial comment about "commenters only responding by quotes" rather than share anything personal. I struck a nerve, rubbed it raw, you're now picking at the scab, it's bleeding... you can't let it go...
And you still can't/won't respond to the initial request by Bill to comment to his research. I'd like to do a search on all the posts he's sent out 'above the fold' having nothing to do w/ politics that you have ever responded to w/out any quotes. Why is that? You consider yourself perhaps too good to respond to another journalist's quest to publish something worthy of your reply? Many, many times, many of us have complimented Bill on the hard work & effort he puts into his research in providing us the reading material he posts for us at a minimal cost. We appreciate it by giving our comments. Yes, I realize his political links lean to the left. That's ok w/ me. I also realize many of his readers are also more liberal than I am. However, there are some of his readers that might realize that just because I call myself a Republican does not mean I support everything Trump does. I appreciate their being fair & open-minded.
Yep, you live to point your fingers at other people. You constantly attempt to pick fights with me. Then, you do every single thing you accuse me of doing. Perhaps you could see someone to talk through your issues with me; otherwise, you will continue to trash and be mean spirited towards me to make yourself feel better.
The very nature of the boomerang conversation is to let others talk while you listen. You pontificate.
If you want to know something personal about me simply ask. That’s what rational adults do. Of that doesn’t work for you then just leave me alone.
“Associate with intelligent people whenever possible. You can learn from them, and you can influence smart people with logic. Stupid people just dig their heels in.”
You stated that "boomerasking" has nothing to do with boomers. Then why call it boomerasking? Boomers already get a bad rap because of the year they were born. Why contribute to that and continue to divide people unnecessarily? No, I am not a boomer.
In the hospital world, there was a lot of boomerasking, holding meetings to ask for suggestions, not taking those suggestions, and just doing whatever the hell they wanted to do anyway. It is one of the reasons I left the hospital world, after working there for 17 years. I didn’t want to live for retirement. I wanted to live now. I still believe that was a good decision. I’ve done a whole lot of living since then. It’s been a roller coaster ride. I enjoy the highs and try to be more patient and graceful in the lows.
It is very annoying and SO disrespectful to the “victim”(aka interrogated person). Sadly, the questioner does not realize that his intent is obvious. Not a great friend-maker ploy!
I volunteer for one of the oldest and certainly the largest nonprofit organizations that offers free mentoring to small business owners. The 10,000 plus volunteers are guided now by about 20 full-time paid employees and about the same number of paid contractors. Thank you for putting a name to the issue of asking for input just to be able to explain your own decisions. Now I actually know what to call the rather common practice. I agree... "waiting to talk" does not make a good leader at all.
This topic reminds me of the seemingly innocuous question "when involved in a conversation, do you listen or wait to talk?" asked in the movie Pulp Fiction. It seems a lot of boomeraskers would do the latter.
You always ask for comments, & most commenters do respond w/ personal remarks, sharing a bit about themselves... rather than just a quote by some famous person... I believe, well, I know, you put a lot of effort into researching the main topic for each day, so when you ask for comments, you most likely appreciate your readers' true responses to your researched material.
What came to my mind when reading about asking questions to show true interest... I believe I've mentioned before, my husband & I began answering questions, from a book, some found on the internet, some silly questions, some very personal, thought-provoking questions, while we were dating. We agreed to marry after finishing one book. We've continued to answer questions from another book he gave me last Christmas, right before we start playing pool each afternoon. One day, the guy who was doing pest-control for our house showed up at that time. We included him in the question of the day. He gave a very thoughtful answer. Then told him the story, what I just wrote... he absolutely loved it!! However, said he didn't think the woman he was living w/, the mother of his child, would enjoy it. We had a copy of the original book we used & gave it to him, w/ hopes it would help their relationship.
The Charlie Kirk murder - my prediction is there will be a great divide (probably already is). Those who detest him because of some of his beliefs, vs the opposite of course, his followers, who will grieve. I actually didn't know who he was until yesterday. Senseless murder is what I say. Then I think of Luigi Mangione who was charged with the murder of UnitedHealthcare CEO Brian Thompson in November 2024. He was then idolized by followers, now has a fan club, receives donations while in jail...
Passive-aggressiveness suits you.
"Anger will never disappear so long as thoughts of resentment are cherished in the mind.
Anger will disappear just as soon as thoughts of resentment are forgotten."
—Buddha
get your definitions clear before you make accusations. Honesty has nothing to do with passive-aggressiveness. Uh, Mr. Quote Guy, Mr. AI reference user...
Your actions betray you. Seems I struck a nerve too close to home?
I have an ongoing curation of quotes because they fascinate me. I learn much from intelligent people.
AI is not part of my repertoire.
What is staggering is how there are enough on the left who think Charlie Kirk was extreme and used hate speech. That couldn't be further from the truth with the way he conducted his approach of "Prove me wrong" et al. It is the Tucker Carlsons of the world who are more apt to be accused of the original point. It is the fact that Charlie was the most effective, not divisive, in his dialogue, which included how well he was resonating with young adults. That scared the hell out of the progressives. BTW, I smirk at the comment about passive-agressive in this thread. Good golly, Miss Molly...
Your actions betray you. Seems I struck a nerve too close to home?
I have an ongoing curation of quotes because they fascinate me. I learn much from intelligent people.
AI is not part of my repertoire.
I have numerous times over several years said you are a narcissist - you are once again proving it by projecting, a form of gaslighting, claiming you have struck a nerve too close to home. However, look how suddenly you reacted to my initial comment about "commenters only responding by quotes" rather than share anything personal. I struck a nerve, rubbed it raw, you're now picking at the scab, it's bleeding... you can't let it go...
And you still can't/won't respond to the initial request by Bill to comment to his research. I'd like to do a search on all the posts he's sent out 'above the fold' having nothing to do w/ politics that you have ever responded to w/out any quotes. Why is that? You consider yourself perhaps too good to respond to another journalist's quest to publish something worthy of your reply? Many, many times, many of us have complimented Bill on the hard work & effort he puts into his research in providing us the reading material he posts for us at a minimal cost. We appreciate it by giving our comments. Yes, I realize his political links lean to the left. That's ok w/ me. I also realize many of his readers are also more liberal than I am. However, there are some of his readers that might realize that just because I call myself a Republican does not mean I support everything Trump does. I appreciate their being fair & open-minded.
Yep, you live to point your fingers at other people. You constantly attempt to pick fights with me. Then, you do every single thing you accuse me of doing. Perhaps you could see someone to talk through your issues with me; otherwise, you will continue to trash and be mean spirited towards me to make yourself feel better.
The very nature of the boomerang conversation is to let others talk while you listen. You pontificate.
If you want to know something personal about me simply ask. That’s what rational adults do. Of that doesn’t work for you then just leave me alone.
“Associate with intelligent people whenever possible. You can learn from them, and you can influence smart people with logic. Stupid people just dig their heels in.”
— Irving Steiner
You stated that "boomerasking" has nothing to do with boomers. Then why call it boomerasking? Boomers already get a bad rap because of the year they were born. Why contribute to that and continue to divide people unnecessarily? No, I am not a boomer.
Boomer as in boomerang. Like throwing something and getting it right back.
Great article today! (You have many great articles by the way, not just this one!)
In the hospital world, there was a lot of boomerasking, holding meetings to ask for suggestions, not taking those suggestions, and just doing whatever the hell they wanted to do anyway. It is one of the reasons I left the hospital world, after working there for 17 years. I didn’t want to live for retirement. I wanted to live now. I still believe that was a good decision. I’ve done a whole lot of living since then. It’s been a roller coaster ride. I enjoy the highs and try to be more patient and graceful in the lows.
That makes more sense. Thank you for clarifying.
It is very annoying and SO disrespectful to the “victim”(aka interrogated person). Sadly, the questioner does not realize that his intent is obvious. Not a great friend-maker ploy!
I volunteer for one of the oldest and certainly the largest nonprofit organizations that offers free mentoring to small business owners. The 10,000 plus volunteers are guided now by about 20 full-time paid employees and about the same number of paid contractors. Thank you for putting a name to the issue of asking for input just to be able to explain your own decisions. Now I actually know what to call the rather common practice. I agree... "waiting to talk" does not make a good leader at all.