Don't freak out

That's Rule No. 1 in my family and at least one other. It's simple, but it's not easy, especially now. Plus, a bunch of other things worth your time.

My wife and I met during college. We dated during our senior year and for a while afterward.

Then, we broke up. We didn’t reconnect until our 20th college reunion.

After that, we moved quickly: got engaged in a few months, married in less than a year. Now, we have a preschool-aged daughter and we live in the ‘burbs.

We have some other friends, a husband …