I have a bit of an advantage w/ Bill's topic today, as the following will support. In my professional & personal experience, I have learned a great deal about Emotional Intelligence.
Based on my experience, comments I might receive from those w/ healthy EI could include any of the following:
...That sounds really interesting/fun, to have been in such a study
...To be in on the 'ground floor' of such research years before it broke on the national scene was probably very interesting for all of those involved!
...Thank you for being so brave to share your results. I've found it intimidating to share successes due to someone thinking I'm bragging
Emotional Intelligence was something I studied in my undergraduate work in my dual majors of psychology & sociology. Also, for my masters degree in Social Work in the late 1970's. While I was in the master's program, another university's students studying for their psychology PHD recruited us as test subjects for research for emotional intelligence. There were numerous tests given thru-out the year. I know what I'm about to say won't be believed by one particular reader, but that's ok. My test results showed I have a very high EI
A person with low emotional intelligence (EI) may act defensively, have difficulty with self-regulation and empathy, and struggle in relationships and conflict resolution. They might exhibit poor communication skills, blame others for their problems, and be unaware of their own emotional triggers or how their actions affect those around them. Other signs include having a hard time with feedback and making conversations all about themselves
Does deleting a comment challenging someone by asking if they have ever adopted a child - then deleting the snarky challenge comment when the person to whom this challenge was directed responded that they do, in fact, have an adopted daughter? Then ghosting further conversation.
Is that not a significant indicator of defensiveness?
Part of EI is owning your shadow. Not denying it or shaming it, but, gaining mastery over it.
The collective shadow of our nation has long been denied. Our history of slavery, racism, displacement of Native Americans, abuse of immigrants and economic injustice are examples of our shadow misaligned with our higher purpose.
Our shadow is there to protect us, but, it is only a tool, it can never be master. Instead of honestly confronting that shadow and gaining mastery over it, we’re now watching in horror as it takes control of our nation and destroys what we cherish.
Today we have a choice, either heal these deep emotional wounds and gain mastery over our shadow or watch it destroy all we value.
evaluating your own reactions based on critically analyzing your emotions, your mood, your similar past experiences to sort out what does/doesn't apply to the current reaction. What is motivating you to act/behave/speak as you do.
don't be overly self-critical or self-confident
Objective awareness, perhaps a most difficult part, is interpreting your own feelings.
It's always said someone who is a narcissist has virtually no emotional intelligence; they cannot own their own feelings. They play the blame game always.
Here is a wonderful book to give you the tools necessary to answer your question on objective awareness, what’s EQ calls “self-awareness.” The ultimate goal is to develop and manage relationships. The first three steps are self-awareness, self-management, social awareness and finally, relationship management. Each step must be developed in order to effectively develop successive steps.
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Emotional intelligence (EQ) is an important factor of success. In Emotional Intelligence 2.0, Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves explain what’s EQ, how you can determine your EQ levels and use a step-by-step program (with 66 proven strategies) to improve 4 core sets of EQ skills.
I have a bit of an advantage w/ Bill's topic today, as the following will support. In my professional & personal experience, I have learned a great deal about Emotional Intelligence.
Based on my experience, comments I might receive from those w/ healthy EI could include any of the following:
...That sounds really interesting/fun, to have been in such a study
...To be in on the 'ground floor' of such research years before it broke on the national scene was probably very interesting for all of those involved!
...Thank you for being so brave to share your results. I've found it intimidating to share successes due to someone thinking I'm bragging
Emotional Intelligence was something I studied in my undergraduate work in my dual majors of psychology & sociology. Also, for my masters degree in Social Work in the late 1970's. While I was in the master's program, another university's students studying for their psychology PHD recruited us as test subjects for research for emotional intelligence. There were numerous tests given thru-out the year. I know what I'm about to say won't be believed by one particular reader, but that's ok. My test results showed I have a very high EI
You’re the CEO of self-praise with no real company.
is there anything about humility in EI?
A person with low emotional intelligence (EI) may act defensively, have difficulty with self-regulation and empathy, and struggle in relationships and conflict resolution. They might exhibit poor communication skills, blame others for their problems, and be unaware of their own emotional triggers or how their actions affect those around them. Other signs include having a hard time with feedback and making conversations all about themselves
Does deleting a comment challenging someone by asking if they have ever adopted a child - then deleting the snarky challenge comment when the person to whom this challenge was directed responded that they do, in fact, have an adopted daughter? Then ghosting further conversation.
Is that not a significant indicator of defensiveness?
Part of EI is owning your shadow. Not denying it or shaming it, but, gaining mastery over it.
The collective shadow of our nation has long been denied. Our history of slavery, racism, displacement of Native Americans, abuse of immigrants and economic injustice are examples of our shadow misaligned with our higher purpose.
Our shadow is there to protect us, but, it is only a tool, it can never be master. Instead of honestly confronting that shadow and gaining mastery over it, we’re now watching in horror as it takes control of our nation and destroys what we cherish.
Today we have a choice, either heal these deep emotional wounds and gain mastery over our shadow or watch it destroy all we value.
This is incredibly well written. I truly love the shadow analogy and I share your concerns.
Thank you.
Thank you for your kind words Darrell. I’m heartbroken and struggling to find leaders who truly understand what we’re facing.
There are a few out there. Know you are not alone; others share your angst.
Perfekt timing, great insigts. More on objective awareness?
evaluating your own reactions based on critically analyzing your emotions, your mood, your similar past experiences to sort out what does/doesn't apply to the current reaction. What is motivating you to act/behave/speak as you do.
don't be overly self-critical or self-confident
Objective awareness, perhaps a most difficult part, is interpreting your own feelings.
It's always said someone who is a narcissist has virtually no emotional intelligence; they cannot own their own feelings. They play the blame game always.
Here is a wonderful book to give you the tools necessary to answer your question on objective awareness, what’s EQ calls “self-awareness.” The ultimate goal is to develop and manage relationships. The first three steps are self-awareness, self-management, social awareness and finally, relationship management. Each step must be developed in order to effectively develop successive steps.
____________________________
Emotional intelligence (EQ) is an important factor of success. In Emotional Intelligence 2.0, Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves explain what’s EQ, how you can determine your EQ levels and use a step-by-step program (with 66 proven strategies) to improve 4 core sets of EQ skills.
https://readingraphics.com/book-summary-emotional-intelligence-2-0/