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Ninah's avatar

There’s another lesson here. In my family, status was everything. To me, doing some good in this world was my monicker. So despite being shamed at home, I was a receptionist, waitress. House cleaner/maid, mucked horses stalls and basically a servant. I loved all of it because of how I felt helping others, esp others in need. Eventually I became every sort of librarian before becoming a massage therapist. I live a very simple life. Though my family has written me off as a loser, I’ve never been so content. I’ve found that status is an empty goal, but helping those in need is so fulfilling emotionally, that I hope to do so until I pass this realm, or I’m the one in need. Your dignity in life or work is all in your head.

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LMW's avatar

When I returned to college at age 42, I was required to take an "Ethics" class. The instructor was a Ph.D. who stressed the importance of getting a college education. She insisted everyone should get that diploma. One day, after her most recent rant on the subject, I raised my hand and asked her, "Who cleans your toilet?" She squinted at me and said "What?" I repeated the question, adding "I'm sure you probably don't do it yourself." When she didn't respond, I reminded her that not everyone needs (or wants) a college degree. Society will always need worker bees. That is not to say that one who cleans houses for a living is somehow lesser than one who professes to teach. My father, a plumber, was not well educated formally but he was quite knowledgeable about a variety of subjects. When his type of work was not as in much demand as it once was, he took a job delivering newspapers, and sold cleaning products. He did what was necessary to feed a family of five, and we got through that tough time without missing a meal or becoming homeless. I was proud of him for setting the example that all work has dignity.

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