I applaud your ability to find engaging stories and present them so well. This was another great read and I appreciate your writing immensely. Thank you!
Re the Uber eats arbitration clause… I wonder if their lawyer argued a basic provision of contract law: that such a document is an “adhesion contract” (in simple terms: to receive the services, the recipient is given no other choice, of contract or provision of the contract, to sign). Generally, in litigation, this means that in any dispute a court’s (or appellate) decision is decided against the drafter, not the recipient of the goods or services. They need to ask their lawyer if it’s still possible, by their state law, to appeal and attempt reliance upon that argument.
The only problem with this possibility is that if a lawyer failed to raise a basic legal argument at the trial level, state law can preclude that lawyer (or a new lawyer) from raising it on appeal….hope their lawyer did raise that argument or that the argument can still be raised on appeal. If neither is the case, other remedies may apply.
first memories bit I told about how I recorded stories of Hospice care patients - wonderful!!
Toys 'R Us --- made me think of Field of Dreams/Build it & they will come... I had my 3 boys '80, '82 & '85 so we LOVED Toys 'R Us!!! haha - Lazarus rose from the dead comment!!
uh, Hezbollah are not militants - they're TERROISTS!!!
thumbs up to CA banning legacy preferences at universities!!
Those VA employees obviously should be fired PLUS heavily fined & have black marks on their records for the rest of their lives.
yeah for UK now using nuclear power among other sources!
and:
a bit different, but very interesting... if you visit the Alamo, in San Antonio - read the letters written (it's a shame some kids these days don't learn how to write/read cursive), you read a lot of history plus personal stories...
and at the school (K-12) my kids attended there was a year they were to interview someone who had lived thru an historical event.
After flying with Pan Am in the 60s and early 70s I was inspired to write my story. My sister, who I thought had more writing skills than I agreed to help me. We agreed to get it published and share the profits. It turned into a disaster! It never got published and it destroyed my close relationship with my sister. During the Vietnam era I was engaged to a wartime news reporter, who I kept in touch with and offered to let him read the finished product. When he returned the manuscript and handed it back he looked crestfallen and commented, “I thought I knew you until I read this”. Many years later I allowed a male friend, who I thought was sophisticated and worldly to read it. After we broke up he advised me, “do yourself a favor and don’t ever let a man who you are in a relationship with read this.” Now the manuscript sets on a shelf, and my partner is hurt because I won’t let him read it. I have no children or grandchildren so I’m unsure if it will ever get read as you suggest in this article. However, it was a very cathartic experience and I would recommend it for anyone who would like to undertake such a journey of self-discovery.
oh my - I say this w/ a smile on my face, but would you consider having a psychologist or social worker (I'm a retired MSSW) read it & the 2 of you talk about it?
Wow! You’ve had several eye-opening reactions, haven’t you. Maybe leaving it on the shelf at this point is the thing to do. If it was cathartic to write though, perhaps that was the purpose. In the future, you might consider having an uninterested third party read it to see if it could be published posthumously? It must be something for all the relationship issues you’ve had so you might want to think at least twice before actually doing anything.
My earliest memory when I was a baby girl was of me meeting a cat for the first time. The purring scared me. I was wearing only a cloth diaper and sitting in a wheelbarrow to meet some kittens too.
One of my early memories? Back in the 1960's, my siblings and I got dropped off at the local swimming pool in a small prairie town while my parents were running a bunch of errands, I would have been about 4. I got bored with swimming so left the pool. Stopped by a local park for a brief moment then started to walk the 7 miles back to our home. By this time, my parents had gone back to the pool and realized I was missing. An off duty RCMP Officer, who had heard the call about a missing child, came upon me about a mile out of town and radioed in to the detachment. Being a well educated child, I knew not to talk to strangers, so he followed me along the highway until my parents caught up with him. And me. Now in my 60's, I still like to walk and explore new places. . . . .
I am an advocate for personal stories!! I want my next career to support this work.
My earliest memory involves difficult trauma... my healing from it has been a beautiful journey. While I understand the 'trauma' story is not what many people want to hear. Healing though.... it is the reason for thriving! Sure, I am a survivor, but my focus is on connecting with others via joy.
I was part on the leading edge of the Baby Boom. My mom and dad were married on VJ Day(Victory over Japan)and I came along pretty darn close to nine months later(Aug 15-May 24). My dad made my crib and high chair which I cleaned up and used for my two boys when they came along. Money was tight for them as for many coming home then so baby furniture would have been reused. Mr Lazarus was smart to figure that out and move into toys. My children didn’t have access to Toys r Us but we did have a Woolworth’s that had enough. Besides, my kids really preferred my pots and pans or boxes, card tables and blankets(for houses)and there were always cards and board games. Got to use lots of imagination with those.
Still trying to wrap my head and eyes around all the damage I’m seeing to my hometown and Western NC as a whole. It’s been heartbreaking to watch but cannot say it wasn’t a disaster in waiting. I hope the rebuild will now take into account how fragile the ecosystem is and how it has to be protected from too many people and foolish planning. As a lifelong resident until 10 months ago, none of what happened is a surprise.
Good for the UK! It can be done. One step at a time and just keep moving forward with progress. When my kids and I were in Scotland two years ago, we were impressed with all the wind farms we saw. Now, if only we could gut the big money buying our lawmakers off, we could continue making headway in the same direction.
I applaud your ability to find engaging stories and present them so well. This was another great read and I appreciate your writing immensely. Thank you!
Re the Uber eats arbitration clause… I wonder if their lawyer argued a basic provision of contract law: that such a document is an “adhesion contract” (in simple terms: to receive the services, the recipient is given no other choice, of contract or provision of the contract, to sign). Generally, in litigation, this means that in any dispute a court’s (or appellate) decision is decided against the drafter, not the recipient of the goods or services. They need to ask their lawyer if it’s still possible, by their state law, to appeal and attempt reliance upon that argument.
The only problem with this possibility is that if a lawyer failed to raise a basic legal argument at the trial level, state law can preclude that lawyer (or a new lawyer) from raising it on appeal….hope their lawyer did raise that argument or that the argument can still be raised on appeal. If neither is the case, other remedies may apply.
You inspire me. I have things I want to say that I’ve never told anyone and I'll be 65 in a couple months. Thank you.
hmmm - don't know about this '2nd attempt'?
here's copy from 1st one
first memories bit I told about how I recorded stories of Hospice care patients - wonderful!!
Toys 'R Us --- made me think of Field of Dreams/Build it & they will come... I had my 3 boys '80, '82 & '85 so we LOVED Toys 'R Us!!! haha - Lazarus rose from the dead comment!!
uh, Hezbollah are not militants - they're TERROISTS!!!
thumbs up to CA banning legacy preferences at universities!!
Those VA employees obviously should be fired PLUS heavily fined & have black marks on their records for the rest of their lives.
yeah for UK now using nuclear power among other sources!
and:
a bit different, but very interesting... if you visit the Alamo, in San Antonio - read the letters written (it's a shame some kids these days don't learn how to write/read cursive), you read a lot of history plus personal stories...
and at the school (K-12) my kids attended there was a year they were to interview someone who had lived thru an historical event.
After flying with Pan Am in the 60s and early 70s I was inspired to write my story. My sister, who I thought had more writing skills than I agreed to help me. We agreed to get it published and share the profits. It turned into a disaster! It never got published and it destroyed my close relationship with my sister. During the Vietnam era I was engaged to a wartime news reporter, who I kept in touch with and offered to let him read the finished product. When he returned the manuscript and handed it back he looked crestfallen and commented, “I thought I knew you until I read this”. Many years later I allowed a male friend, who I thought was sophisticated and worldly to read it. After we broke up he advised me, “do yourself a favor and don’t ever let a man who you are in a relationship with read this.” Now the manuscript sets on a shelf, and my partner is hurt because I won’t let him read it. I have no children or grandchildren so I’m unsure if it will ever get read as you suggest in this article. However, it was a very cathartic experience and I would recommend it for anyone who would like to undertake such a journey of self-discovery.
oh my - I say this w/ a smile on my face, but would you consider having a psychologist or social worker (I'm a retired MSSW) read it & the 2 of you talk about it?
My sister is also a retired MSSW.
Wow! You’ve had several eye-opening reactions, haven’t you. Maybe leaving it on the shelf at this point is the thing to do. If it was cathartic to write though, perhaps that was the purpose. In the future, you might consider having an uninterested third party read it to see if it could be published posthumously? It must be something for all the relationship issues you’ve had so you might want to think at least twice before actually doing anything.
My earliest memory when I was a baby girl was of me meeting a cat for the first time. The purring scared me. I was wearing only a cloth diaper and sitting in a wheelbarrow to meet some kittens too.
One of my early memories? Back in the 1960's, my siblings and I got dropped off at the local swimming pool in a small prairie town while my parents were running a bunch of errands, I would have been about 4. I got bored with swimming so left the pool. Stopped by a local park for a brief moment then started to walk the 7 miles back to our home. By this time, my parents had gone back to the pool and realized I was missing. An off duty RCMP Officer, who had heard the call about a missing child, came upon me about a mile out of town and radioed in to the detachment. Being a well educated child, I knew not to talk to strangers, so he followed me along the highway until my parents caught up with him. And me. Now in my 60's, I still like to walk and explore new places. . . . .
Hey there, Mr. Murphy!
I am an advocate for personal stories!! I want my next career to support this work.
My earliest memory involves difficult trauma... my healing from it has been a beautiful journey. While I understand the 'trauma' story is not what many people want to hear. Healing though.... it is the reason for thriving! Sure, I am a survivor, but my focus is on connecting with others via joy.
I was part on the leading edge of the Baby Boom. My mom and dad were married on VJ Day(Victory over Japan)and I came along pretty darn close to nine months later(Aug 15-May 24). My dad made my crib and high chair which I cleaned up and used for my two boys when they came along. Money was tight for them as for many coming home then so baby furniture would have been reused. Mr Lazarus was smart to figure that out and move into toys. My children didn’t have access to Toys r Us but we did have a Woolworth’s that had enough. Besides, my kids really preferred my pots and pans or boxes, card tables and blankets(for houses)and there were always cards and board games. Got to use lots of imagination with those.
Still trying to wrap my head and eyes around all the damage I’m seeing to my hometown and Western NC as a whole. It’s been heartbreaking to watch but cannot say it wasn’t a disaster in waiting. I hope the rebuild will now take into account how fragile the ecosystem is and how it has to be protected from too many people and foolish planning. As a lifelong resident until 10 months ago, none of what happened is a surprise.
Good for the UK! It can be done. One step at a time and just keep moving forward with progress. When my kids and I were in Scotland two years ago, we were impressed with all the wind farms we saw. Now, if only we could gut the big money buying our lawmakers off, we could continue making headway in the same direction.