Funny how visualizing the worst that could happen somehow makes it “less worse” and the alternative might be even worse. Another sowing and a hit from Bill!
“Markwayne Mullin said his department is "drawing up" plans to prevent inbound international flights from landing in what he called "sanctuary cities"…because of people exercising their First Amendment right to protest.
— Washington Post
Didn’t Mr. Mullins swear and oath to uphold and protect the Constitution?
First Amendment
“Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances.”
ICYMI
“Trump appointees push $250 banknote with his portrait “
“The printing director who resisted the effort said she was reassigned last month. “The buck stopped here,” she wrote in her goodbye.”
I wonder if she will get her job back or a payout like these people:
“Fired for Criticizing Charlie Kirk, They’re Now Getting Big Payouts
Ball State University is the latest institution to agree to pay workers who lost their jobs over their posts about the conservative activist.”
Don’t they know Millli Vanilli were frauds? Guess they would fit right in Washington these days.
Guess I will hold off filling up the car for a few days in the hop3s gas goes back under $2 a litre.
My thought on hard decisions? You aren’t going to know if they are right or wrong for several months, so just pick the one that feels the best and move on. By the time you know if it’s right or wrong, life will have moved on. People get stuck on not wanting to make a decisions, or making the decision that is the easiest and those both seldomly turn out well. I have made some very major decisions in my life, some were right, some turned out not so good, but the act of making the decision was always the right move. The more you make decisions, especially hard ones, the easier it becomes to make those hard choices.
Your gas is $2.00/litre? I’ll stop bitching about our $1.30/litre here then. I really hope this mess over gas/oil creates such a demand for renewables that the world can’t keep up with it. As for decisions, I agree. Make the darn thing and get on with your life. I don’t get the wallowing/worrying cycle that people want to lock themselves into. And I don’t know about you, but is this the screwiest timeline to be living in?
we pay the price for living on an island. And yes, life is very screwy. I have stopped paying attention to those things I cannot affect or change and just do my best to be good to those around me. Just control what I can control.
And one more thing, has the government given any thought to the chaos that would be caused if they do stop inbound flights to various cities? It could affect flights all around the world. But hey, it’s all about us.
I use what I call the theory of regrets. I project myself into the future and ask "What's the worst thing that could happen that could happen if I decided option #1?" Then I ask, "What's the worst thing that could happen if I decided option #2?" The answer is always obvious at that point, and my decision is made.
I am not a supporter of DJT but there's a line in his book, The Art of the Deal, that did actually transform my thinking. It is akin to what you wrote.
To paraphrase, if you can live with the downside you do the deal. It really does have application in life. A friend wasn't sure if he should apply for a job he thought he'd like. I asked him what's the downside of he applies and doesn't get the job. Told him he doesn't have the job now so loss.
After decades of clients getting fearful (quite reasonably, though I often wished they had done so during earlier phases of the litigation) just before trials, I finally started asking them to visualize the very worst outcome. A large part of the fear turned out to be ignorance of post-judgment matters, and I found that walking them through the worst outcomes, including even possible bankruptcy, had the effect of calming the angst quickly. Don't know how that works with psychology, but it dovetails with my lifetime observation that anger is most often based on fear, which itself is most often based on ignorance.
I learned this lesson with a slightly different question, from a Statistics professor I had in grad school. When trying to make a decision, the question is, "what is the consequence of making the wrong decision?" For example, an elderly friend with emerging dementia doesn't think she needs live-in help in her home. Her kids do think she needs it. So if they don't get the live-in help, but she really did need it, the consequences could be dire, even dangerous. If they do get the live-in help and she did not really need it, the consequences would be the expenditure for the help. Which consequence is more severe should guide the decision-making.
Funny how visualizing the worst that could happen somehow makes it “less worse” and the alternative might be even worse. Another sowing and a hit from Bill!
“Markwayne Mullin said his department is "drawing up" plans to prevent inbound international flights from landing in what he called "sanctuary cities"…because of people exercising their First Amendment right to protest.
— Washington Post
Didn’t Mr. Mullins swear and oath to uphold and protect the Constitution?
First Amendment
“Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances.”
ICYMI
“Trump appointees push $250 banknote with his portrait “
“The printing director who resisted the effort said she was reassigned last month. “The buck stopped here,” she wrote in her goodbye.”
I wonder if she will get her job back or a payout like these people:
“Fired for Criticizing Charlie Kirk, They’re Now Getting Big Payouts
Ball State University is the latest institution to agree to pay workers who lost their jobs over their posts about the conservative activist.”
- NYT
Don’t they know Millli Vanilli were frauds? Guess they would fit right in Washington these days.
Guess I will hold off filling up the car for a few days in the hop3s gas goes back under $2 a litre.
My thought on hard decisions? You aren’t going to know if they are right or wrong for several months, so just pick the one that feels the best and move on. By the time you know if it’s right or wrong, life will have moved on. People get stuck on not wanting to make a decisions, or making the decision that is the easiest and those both seldomly turn out well. I have made some very major decisions in my life, some were right, some turned out not so good, but the act of making the decision was always the right move. The more you make decisions, especially hard ones, the easier it becomes to make those hard choices.
Your gas is $2.00/litre? I’ll stop bitching about our $1.30/litre here then. I really hope this mess over gas/oil creates such a demand for renewables that the world can’t keep up with it. As for decisions, I agree. Make the darn thing and get on with your life. I don’t get the wallowing/worrying cycle that people want to lock themselves into. And I don’t know about you, but is this the screwiest timeline to be living in?
we pay the price for living on an island. And yes, life is very screwy. I have stopped paying attention to those things I cannot affect or change and just do my best to be good to those around me. Just control what I can control.
Exactly. Be kind and be a good neighbor. I can control that.
And one more thing, has the government given any thought to the chaos that would be caused if they do stop inbound flights to various cities? It could affect flights all around the world. But hey, it’s all about us.
I hate it when my coffee gets cold!
The worst you can do is fail miserably
The worst that can happen is you a horrible death
😊
I use what I call the theory of regrets. I project myself into the future and ask "What's the worst thing that could happen that could happen if I decided option #1?" Then I ask, "What's the worst thing that could happen if I decided option #2?" The answer is always obvious at that point, and my decision is made.
I am not a supporter of DJT but there's a line in his book, The Art of the Deal, that did actually transform my thinking. It is akin to what you wrote.
To paraphrase, if you can live with the downside you do the deal. It really does have application in life. A friend wasn't sure if he should apply for a job he thought he'd like. I asked him what's the downside of he applies and doesn't get the job. Told him he doesn't have the job now so loss.
After decades of clients getting fearful (quite reasonably, though I often wished they had done so during earlier phases of the litigation) just before trials, I finally started asking them to visualize the very worst outcome. A large part of the fear turned out to be ignorance of post-judgment matters, and I found that walking them through the worst outcomes, including even possible bankruptcy, had the effect of calming the angst quickly. Don't know how that works with psychology, but it dovetails with my lifetime observation that anger is most often based on fear, which itself is most often based on ignorance.
I learned this lesson with a slightly different question, from a Statistics professor I had in grad school. When trying to make a decision, the question is, "what is the consequence of making the wrong decision?" For example, an elderly friend with emerging dementia doesn't think she needs live-in help in her home. Her kids do think she needs it. So if they don't get the live-in help, but she really did need it, the consequences could be dire, even dangerous. If they do get the live-in help and she did not really need it, the consequences would be the expenditure for the help. Which consequence is more severe should guide the decision-making.