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Sometimes there is too much academia involved in our personal lives. Writing down an audit of your relationships? C'mon. Keep the people who don't make you work for their friendship, get rid of the ones who consistently do. If you're always worried about saying the wrong thing or 'slipping up' you're not the problem, they are.

My husband and I laugh all the time; at ourselves, at each other, at our kids, at people around us. We don't take ourselves seriously and we surround ourselves with people who are the same way.

If a relationship with a friend wanes over time, it just means you grew in different directions. It's not a bad thing, it's change. We still send Christmas cards to each other, but we're not making plans for Saturday night. Life is hard. We don't know what is going on with people at any given time in their lives. Sometimes its not you and sometimes it's not them, it just is. That's ok.

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Sometimes writing things down makes them more approachable.

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I think you hit the nail on the head but I would not examine them to close,you might hit your finger. 😎

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As an introvert I don't like it...

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Don’t like “it”…? Tell us more…

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I don't like being told how to be happy. LOL!

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PS - I consider myself happier overall than many others!!

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The stat about Gen Z is interesting. I wonder if it's from all the crap they digest on social media and in the theatres that gives them such an unrealistic outlook.

I do agree with some of the points about happiness, but really the only person who can make you happy is you. If your happiness depends on others, you will end up being disappointed. Not to say that you can't share happiness with others, but happiness for me has always been intrinsic.

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💯%

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I could not have said it better myself.

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I follow this crazy guy on Substack and funniest thing, his subject today was about being happy so I thought I’d share.

https://open.substack.com/pub/jasonprovencio/p/some-friendships-are-only-meant-to?r=np4n&utm_medium=ios

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