This is a great lesson. As stated in Luke 6:37 "Forgive, and ye shall be forgiven" Acceptance of an unspoken apology releases us from the burden of animosity. I will not walk down that dark road because I would walk it alone.
Great article. For me forgiveness has become much easier since I examined my own harms to others. As with most humans, my score keeping during my lifetime was skewed. I could remember when and how I was wronged but my wrongs got brushed aside. Cleaning up my side of the street and amending my wrongs not only made forgiveness easier it made it unnecessary in many instances.
Also, I read the article about bing in NYT last night. Truly disturbing. It demonstrated just how this technology could be used to influence and persuade.
I am so creeped out. And conflicted. The journalist is a human testing a non-human. But I feel empathy for the bot who's being manipulated in the creepiest way. The human is a predator. And the bot is out of control. It's too weird!
Great thoughts, as I work on becoming a better person, I need to remember this. I have been trying to use turn the other cheek from the sermon on the mount but can't seem to become that person. This will take me a step closer.
Obviously you love yourself to be able to understand the self kindness it takes to be willing to adjust to a new way to approach life. I like it. I am going to do it until I forget. New behaviors need repetitiveness to be learned. I am going to have to pull out all my hurt, make a list, check it twice and then knock one off each day. My goal will be a feeling of lightness and I hope I will emotionally float up to the sky but not too high, don’t want to be mistaken for a balloon. Thank you I feel better already.
A bad day only occurs because you have divided them into being good or bad. There is really no such thing. Days are just days and they may be different from any previous days. Why burden your mental system with flip flopping from one extreme to another?
Whether it's self-driving vehicles or self-intimidating A/I...I want no part of it. It's all programmed by man and man has very little certain knowledge about mostly everything. A/I can be programmed to present results pushing you towards a certain agenda...it is not going to be neutral.
My search engine of choice is usually Yandex because I trust the Russians more than big tech search alternatives.
Maybe I was concerned that all of the unusual high-altitude balloons I'd accidentally released from my backyard recently would spark some kind of national security crisis.
Bill - thanks for today's newsletter and for sharing this powerful message. I've written it down on a post-it note here on my desk but I'm trying to figure out a better way to keep it front and center in my daily life.
Hmm, clever way of saying “don’t be easily offended”. But if you actually said that, people might get offended. I personally don’t trust good apologizers. Politicians and spouse abusers are the best apologizers ever. The problem is, they never change. Most apologies are excuses for not doing better. Although I just recently apologized to 3 people that I love dearly. Not a single one of them needed an apology, they had moved on. The apologies were for myself to get secrets and wrong doings off my chest. It felt great. Quite frankly, it wouldn’t have mattered if they did not accept that apology, because it was about ME letting go and moving on.
Thanks Penny. I actually don't think it means "don't be offended." You can be offended. But when you're ready to move on from it, accept the apology even if it wasn't offered. Also I have to admit I'm like the shoemaker whose kids are barefoot sometimes with these posts; they're aspirational but it's not as if I always live up to them!
That is so true. More than once, I have apologized for things that have eaten away at me for years, and the person on the receiving end just blinks in confusion and doesn't even remember the egregious wrong I think I've committed. In those cases, apologizing did feel very much like it was about my need for unburdening and closure.
Really great article, made my day better. Emotional intelligence and understanding one's self is so hard to do in our over stimulated world. Thank you for reminding us that we can choose how we respond.
This all reminded me of something I read in one of Steven Covey’s books. To your point James, we can always choose our response (though we often forget that).
I held a grudge with my dad for far too long. When I read that holding a grudge makes you a victim, it hit me like a ton of bricks. The grudge ended that moment. Good one again today Bill. Thanks!
Great article! It made my day brighter.
This is a great lesson. As stated in Luke 6:37 "Forgive, and ye shall be forgiven" Acceptance of an unspoken apology releases us from the burden of animosity. I will not walk down that dark road because I would walk it alone.
My prayers go to Senator Fetterman.
Likewise.
Great article, it always helps to learn new ways to be happy
Great article. For me forgiveness has become much easier since I examined my own harms to others. As with most humans, my score keeping during my lifetime was skewed. I could remember when and how I was wronged but my wrongs got brushed aside. Cleaning up my side of the street and amending my wrongs not only made forgiveness easier it made it unnecessary in many instances.
Also, I read the article about bing in NYT last night. Truly disturbing. It demonstrated just how this technology could be used to influence and persuade.
Can we get jerseys for Team Skip the Middle Step?????? Love this “skip”
Great idea but I think we are still waiting for the beanies too..
Holy crap - the Sydney transcript (the NYT2 link) is out of control! It's a long read and gets weirder and weirder and weirder.
I am so creeped out. And conflicted. The journalist is a human testing a non-human. But I feel empathy for the bot who's being manipulated in the creepiest way. The human is a predator. And the bot is out of control. It's too weird!
Thank you🎿
Gonna try to float away from Overthinking Island, without apology.
Thank you for today’s message 😘
Great thoughts, as I work on becoming a better person, I need to remember this. I have been trying to use turn the other cheek from the sermon on the mount but can't seem to become that person. This will take me a step closer.
How do you learn to skip the middle part?
Obviously you love yourself to be able to understand the self kindness it takes to be willing to adjust to a new way to approach life. I like it. I am going to do it until I forget. New behaviors need repetitiveness to be learned. I am going to have to pull out all my hurt, make a list, check it twice and then knock one off each day. My goal will be a feeling of lightness and I hope I will emotionally float up to the sky but not too high, don’t want to be mistaken for a balloon. Thank you I feel better already.
A bad day only occurs because you have divided them into being good or bad. There is really no such thing. Days are just days and they may be different from any previous days. Why burden your mental system with flip flopping from one extreme to another?
Whether it's self-driving vehicles or self-intimidating A/I...I want no part of it. It's all programmed by man and man has very little certain knowledge about mostly everything. A/I can be programmed to present results pushing you towards a certain agenda...it is not going to be neutral.
My search engine of choice is usually Yandex because I trust the Russians more than big tech search alternatives.
Maybe I was concerned that all of the unusual high-altitude balloons I'd accidentally released from my backyard recently would spark some kind of national security crisis.
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Bill - thanks for today's newsletter and for sharing this powerful message. I've written it down on a post-it note here on my desk but I'm trying to figure out a better way to keep it front and center in my daily life.
Hmm, clever way of saying “don’t be easily offended”. But if you actually said that, people might get offended. I personally don’t trust good apologizers. Politicians and spouse abusers are the best apologizers ever. The problem is, they never change. Most apologies are excuses for not doing better. Although I just recently apologized to 3 people that I love dearly. Not a single one of them needed an apology, they had moved on. The apologies were for myself to get secrets and wrong doings off my chest. It felt great. Quite frankly, it wouldn’t have mattered if they did not accept that apology, because it was about ME letting go and moving on.
Thanks Penny. I actually don't think it means "don't be offended." You can be offended. But when you're ready to move on from it, accept the apology even if it wasn't offered. Also I have to admit I'm like the shoemaker whose kids are barefoot sometimes with these posts; they're aspirational but it's not as if I always live up to them!
That is so true. More than once, I have apologized for things that have eaten away at me for years, and the person on the receiving end just blinks in confusion and doesn't even remember the egregious wrong I think I've committed. In those cases, apologizing did feel very much like it was about my need for unburdening and closure.
Love this. You're so right. This can be applied to any grudge or situation that's happened in the past. "Just let it go."
Really great article, made my day better. Emotional intelligence and understanding one's self is so hard to do in our over stimulated world. Thank you for reminding us that we can choose how we respond.
This all reminded me of something I read in one of Steven Covey’s books. To your point James, we can always choose our response (though we often forget that).
I held a grudge with my dad for far too long. When I read that holding a grudge makes you a victim, it hit me like a ton of bricks. The grudge ended that moment. Good one again today Bill. Thanks!
Covey is great. What a research project: 200 years of self-help books, condensed into one simple list.