I read about 100 books, some fiction but many non-fiction, a year. All books come from our public library. However, when I come across a non-fiction one that I will want to reference in the future, I will definitely purchase it.
I loved reading all the negotiation tactics. They seem almost common sense at their core however they are extremely under utilized. People seem to go into negotiations with an all or nothing attitude knowing somebody’s going to lose. That does seem to set it up in a much different fashion then if you look at it as what are we both going to get out of this.
Regarding negotiating, research is a fundamental first step. The more you understand about another party, whether is be a potential customer, a product or service provider, or anyone else, the more effective your negotiation will be.
My wife and I listened to the Serial podcast. We have always believed there was more to the story and were never satisfied with the cellphone data. It is wonderful to hear Syed will be out of prison today!
Now, I need to go back and look at the stars one more time….
One more thing: a win/win mindset will almost always be more successful than the alternative. That takes being reasonable, being fully knowledgeable of the other party and understanding that people become more emotional when they feel they are in a win/lose negotiation. Emotions trump facts every time.
On the book survey, I read a large number of books in many genres each year. Many are on my e-reader (Kindle) and I purchase those. But many times each year (and most often after reading an interview with an author promoting their latest) I buy one or more print copies as gifts for the associates or friends that I feel will enjoy them.
As a retired librarian I know that both publishers and many authors want people to buy books rather than borrow them from the library. I buy whatever I am interested in (assuming a reasonable price) rather than waiting for the book to become available at the library, which means I now have 32 books in my tsundoku waiting to be picked next! Currently reading How Minds Change: The Surprising Science of Belief, Opinion, and Persuasion by David McRaney which talks about techniques that have parallels with negotiation. Motivations, beliefs, values, and perceived truths underlie all decisions and willingness to work with others.
Glad you wrote the update on the Adnan Syed case. Seems like forever that I listened to the Serial podcast, well it was back forever, 2014. I was never convinced of his guilt. And I thought they had something else on his friend who testified as to helping him bury Lee. Did not see the HBO show.
As far as books go, my latest strategy is buying used ones on Amazon. I am not the consumer the
publishers are looking for. They come sooner than expected. Though I do have an Audible account for more recent ones, have 10 accumulated credits and just put the account on pause. Too many books, too little time.
The public library is a wonderful resource! I always place new books on hold by authors I like and am surprised when they come in. In between, I walk the isles and explore new authors. Nothing like the smell of a library or bookstore.
Loved the Serial podcast on Syed. Like others, it sounded really shady so glad he is getting out of jail and hopefully on with a good life. I read a lot of books related to my field (psychology) on a particular subject. I have read many memoirs that have a compelling story related to psychology - like The Glass Castle among others. I have started to read books outside of psychology to broaden my knowledge. I often say, the more I read, the more I realize I don't know. Re: the negotiation tactics, in many of those tactics - it sounds like a lot of my couples and people in relationships. The lose-lose, the win-win, the WE approach, the ultimatums, stay calm, why are we doing this. Interesting!
#9 in the negotiation list is often referred to as "resort to higher authority" and it's a very useful negotiating gambit.
You want to keep your own resort to higher authority and take away the other party's. For yourself, you want the higher authority to be a faceless entity, like "the Board" and before you sign the deal you check with them. Then you can come back and say sorry Bob, I went to the wall for you on this but the Board won't budge on the per unit price unless you can bring the delivery date in. (Or whatever).
For the other party, you want to take away their resort to higher authority by confirming early in the process that they have the authority to make the deal and there is actually no higher authority. If they insist they have to get approval from someone, you try to get them onside and to agree that they will recommend approval of the deal as negotiated.
Not at all. It's only win/ lose if you narrow down the scope to one issue, like unit price. If you also keep flexibility on a second point, like delivery date, you can offer something you perhaps don't care that much about but which they might, and still get what you want. Classic win/win
“ You want to keep your own resort to higher authority and take away the other party's. For yourself, you want the higher authority to be a faceless entity, like "the Board" and before you sign the deal you check with them.”
That is disingenuous. A win/win requires that mutual trust be developed and cannot be based on a lie, even a little white lie, because now you are being deceptive. A savvy negotiator will see through the facade and will then engage in similar win/lose tactics or end the negotiation. Potential future negotiations will also be tainted.
If you’ve done your homework and are truly focused on a win/win you don’t need subterfuge, only common ground and mutual respect.
We'll have to agree to disagree, Darrell. I'm not looking for a life partner in a negotiation so I don't agree that it needs to be rainbows and kumbaya. If both parties feel they won, it's a win win. If I get you to a spot where I want you, and you still feel like you won that's not disingenuous, it's the definition of negotiation.
Just read John Grisham’s Sparing Partners, Dolly Parton and James Patterson’s Run Rose Run, and currently reading Giants in the Earth by O.E. Rolvaag .
P.S. I do buy books however all of these were loaned to me by friends. I usually buy the kindle version so I can carry it along easier and also because I love to reread favorite books.
The Van Gogh picture was cool! I have ways been a voracious reader, more than 50 books a year. Always have a couple on the go. Really glad my kids inherited the love of reading as well.
Good article on negotiations, too bad politicians don't follow the techniques!
I'm a voracious reader, it's one of my favorite hobbies as well as a great learning experience. I'm also a pretty good buyer of books as I rarely read online books. I want to hold the book in my hands and turn the pages myself, it helps make the process more enjoyable for me.
I have just recently finished Calling Bullshit (which was awesome, especially the last chapter), snd Atomic Habits. I love it when books like these start to overlap in their concepts and messages. I figure that's a good sign that I'm reading enough.... ;-}
A favorite book of mine is "Never Split the Difference - Negotiating as if Your Life Depended on It" by Chris Voss. Mr. Voss is a retired FBI negotiator.
I buy books. Many are used for research and are dog-eared, and full of highlighted sentences, written, and sticky-flags. I also listen to books on Audible when driving.
I read about 100 books, some fiction but many non-fiction, a year. All books come from our public library. However, when I come across a non-fiction one that I will want to reference in the future, I will definitely purchase it.
Two favorites that I recently read:
The Beauty of Dusk by Frank Bruni
Cloud Cuckoo Land by Anthony Doeer
I loved reading all the negotiation tactics. They seem almost common sense at their core however they are extremely under utilized. People seem to go into negotiations with an all or nothing attitude knowing somebody’s going to lose. That does seem to set it up in a much different fashion then if you look at it as what are we both going to get out of this.
Regarding negotiating, research is a fundamental first step. The more you understand about another party, whether is be a potential customer, a product or service provider, or anyone else, the more effective your negotiation will be.
My wife and I listened to the Serial podcast. We have always believed there was more to the story and were never satisfied with the cellphone data. It is wonderful to hear Syed will be out of prison today!
Now, I need to go back and look at the stars one more time….
One more thing: a win/win mindset will almost always be more successful than the alternative. That takes being reasonable, being fully knowledgeable of the other party and understanding that people become more emotional when they feel they are in a win/lose negotiation. Emotions trump facts every time.
On the book survey, I read a large number of books in many genres each year. Many are on my e-reader (Kindle) and I purchase those. But many times each year (and most often after reading an interview with an author promoting their latest) I buy one or more print copies as gifts for the associates or friends that I feel will enjoy them.
As a retired librarian I know that both publishers and many authors want people to buy books rather than borrow them from the library. I buy whatever I am interested in (assuming a reasonable price) rather than waiting for the book to become available at the library, which means I now have 32 books in my tsundoku waiting to be picked next! Currently reading How Minds Change: The Surprising Science of Belief, Opinion, and Persuasion by David McRaney which talks about techniques that have parallels with negotiation. Motivations, beliefs, values, and perceived truths underlie all decisions and willingness to work with others.
Glad you wrote the update on the Adnan Syed case. Seems like forever that I listened to the Serial podcast, well it was back forever, 2014. I was never convinced of his guilt. And I thought they had something else on his friend who testified as to helping him bury Lee. Did not see the HBO show.
As far as books go, my latest strategy is buying used ones on Amazon. I am not the consumer the
publishers are looking for. They come sooner than expected. Though I do have an Audible account for more recent ones, have 10 accumulated credits and just put the account on pause. Too many books, too little time.
I read close to 100 books a year, but I buy zero books.
The public library is a wonderful resource! I always place new books on hold by authors I like and am surprised when they come in. In between, I walk the isles and explore new authors. Nothing like the smell of a library or bookstore.
Loved the Serial podcast on Syed. Like others, it sounded really shady so glad he is getting out of jail and hopefully on with a good life. I read a lot of books related to my field (psychology) on a particular subject. I have read many memoirs that have a compelling story related to psychology - like The Glass Castle among others. I have started to read books outside of psychology to broaden my knowledge. I often say, the more I read, the more I realize I don't know. Re: the negotiation tactics, in many of those tactics - it sounds like a lot of my couples and people in relationships. The lose-lose, the win-win, the WE approach, the ultimatums, stay calm, why are we doing this. Interesting!
Loved The Glass House!
great book! as was Educated, The Silent Patient and Hidden Valley Road.
#9 in the negotiation list is often referred to as "resort to higher authority" and it's a very useful negotiating gambit.
You want to keep your own resort to higher authority and take away the other party's. For yourself, you want the higher authority to be a faceless entity, like "the Board" and before you sign the deal you check with them. Then you can come back and say sorry Bob, I went to the wall for you on this but the Board won't budge on the per unit price unless you can bring the delivery date in. (Or whatever).
For the other party, you want to take away their resort to higher authority by confirming early in the process that they have the authority to make the deal and there is actually no higher authority. If they insist they have to get approval from someone, you try to get them onside and to agree that they will recommend approval of the deal as negotiated.
So win/lose?
Not at all. It's only win/ lose if you narrow down the scope to one issue, like unit price. If you also keep flexibility on a second point, like delivery date, you can offer something you perhaps don't care that much about but which they might, and still get what you want. Classic win/win
“ You want to keep your own resort to higher authority and take away the other party's. For yourself, you want the higher authority to be a faceless entity, like "the Board" and before you sign the deal you check with them.”
That is disingenuous. A win/win requires that mutual trust be developed and cannot be based on a lie, even a little white lie, because now you are being deceptive. A savvy negotiator will see through the facade and will then engage in similar win/lose tactics or end the negotiation. Potential future negotiations will also be tainted.
If you’ve done your homework and are truly focused on a win/win you don’t need subterfuge, only common ground and mutual respect.
We'll have to agree to disagree, Darrell. I'm not looking for a life partner in a negotiation so I don't agree that it needs to be rainbows and kumbaya. If both parties feel they won, it's a win win. If I get you to a spot where I want you, and you still feel like you won that's not disingenuous, it's the definition of negotiation.
Just read John Grisham’s Sparing Partners, Dolly Parton and James Patterson’s Run Rose Run, and currently reading Giants in the Earth by O.E. Rolvaag .
P.S. I do buy books however all of these were loaned to me by friends. I usually buy the kindle version so I can carry it along easier and also because I love to reread favorite books.
The Van Gogh picture was cool! I have ways been a voracious reader, more than 50 books a year. Always have a couple on the go. Really glad my kids inherited the love of reading as well.
Good article on negotiations, too bad politicians don't follow the techniques!
I'm a voracious reader, it's one of my favorite hobbies as well as a great learning experience. I'm also a pretty good buyer of books as I rarely read online books. I want to hold the book in my hands and turn the pages myself, it helps make the process more enjoyable for me.
Like a newspaper used to be ☹️
I have just recently finished Calling Bullshit (which was awesome, especially the last chapter), snd Atomic Habits. I love it when books like these start to overlap in their concepts and messages. I figure that's a good sign that I'm reading enough.... ;-}
A favorite book of mine is "Never Split the Difference - Negotiating as if Your Life Depended on It" by Chris Voss. Mr. Voss is a retired FBI negotiator.
I buy books. Many are used for research and are dog-eared, and full of highlighted sentences, written, and sticky-flags. I also listen to books on Audible when driving.
I have completely switched to audiobooks in the last three years.