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Lisa Maniaci's avatar

I was at the beach just this past summer, and witnessed a kid about 18-19 years old drowning. It took a few moments to recognize that what I was seeing, and not someone just swimming by face down. When a wave came and rolled him, I jumped in. As I was grabbing him, his friends had realized he was not running back to the blanket behind them, turned and saw the commotion and ran back, taking him from me and dragging him out of the water.

I was glad for the help, he was clearly dead and very heavy.

When I turned around I saw that the lifeguards were not aware of what was going on so I whistled to them, caught their attention and they came running.

Aside from watching the state troopers and lifeguards bringing this kid back to life, which was traumatic enough; there were two extremely disturbing outcomes from this experience:

1. there was an elderly man watching his best friend in the water with concern, so he never saw the kid in front of him until I jumped in. There was another man with a young child on the other side of me who saw, but couldn't leave his kid. As things began to fall into a certain rhythm and chatter started, both of those men thanked me and then told me they didn't think they would have gone in, even if they could; and especially if the person drowning was female. (this is my head exploding). They didn't want to get sued if they touched a spot on her body by accident and they didn't want any kind of litigation against them if something happened to the kid that was actually drowning at the time. I kind of lost my sh*t on them and asked what is worse than death by drowning when someone could have helped but chose - CHOSE!!-not to? Then I said, do I have to worry that, should my daughter go to the beach with her friends and run into trouble, that no one will help her because of their fear of litigation??? What has this world come to? Then I realized they are not unique. Just look at the subway videos from people who could have helped but chose to record instead. That's a different breed right there.

2. Although there are lifeguards every few hundred yards, they don't see everything. No one in 2 chairs, for a total of 8 lifeguards, saw this kid drowning or being pulled from the water until we forced their attention in our direction. Parents need to know this. teens and adults need to know this. It's why you should never swim alone.

It was probably 3 weeks before I was able to sleep at night again. I couldn't get that kid's face out of my mind. To this day, without warning, it will just pop into my head while I'm cooking, or driving, or working. I found out from someone who lives in the area that he survived and is ok, but I still kick myself for not acting sooner. We never think about the processing time during emergencies. It's a real thing.

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Mary Louise Luczkowski's avatar

Great article and thank you for the SNL remembrance. It was awesome!

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